Practical Dating Advice for Men: 10 Tips for Better Dates

There’s no way around it: for some people, dating can be exhausting and knock your confidence. Need to change up your strategy, but don’t know where to start?

First of all, try not to beat yourself up too much. If you think about it, dating should feel hard – until you find the one!

But that doesn’t mean you can’t increase your odds with a few strategic tweaks. Here are 10 pieces of practice dating advice for men of every age:

Practical Dating Advice for Men

#1: Know How to Talk About Your Career

Whether you have a fancy banking job or work a vocation, prospective dates mainly care about stability. So, even if you’re working a clerk job, practice talking about your ambitions, goals, and plans to demonstrate confidence and self-assurance.

#2: Invest in Hobbies

Having hobbies serves two purposes. First, your career can’t be the only interesting thing about you, so hobbies help you come across as more well-rounded. Second, they help you grow as a person. And the more mature you are, the more likely you are to cultivate a stable relationship.

#3: Put Effort Into Your Appearance

From skincare and cologne to working out, a man who takes care of himself will often appear more attractive, so putting more effort into your appearance is a no-brainer.

If that’s not motive enough, consider the law of attraction. If you want to attract a partner who looks incredible, you should do your part to look incredible too.

#4: Commit to a Style

Whether it’s streetwear or suits, people gravitate toward men with a distinct sense of style. But there’s no need to go full fashionista – simply invest in good-quality pieces and styles that make you feel like yourself.

No matter who you are, self-expression is always alluring.

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#5: Practice Your Social Skills

Very few people are naturally charismatic. For most of us, mastering social skills takes years of reflection and practice. If you’re lacking in this department, explore online resources like Coach Kyle on YouTube. Online dating apps like Verge also offer in-app dating coaching that can help.

And, like anything else in life, practice makes perfect. So don’t let one awkward date deter you from the next one!

#6: Plan Activity-Oriented Dates

Can’t stand the repetition of dinner and a movie? Shake things up with fun, playful date ideas. Adult arcades, bowling, or urban hikes can take the pressure off and help you open up.

#7: Initiate Playful Touch Early

Do you spend entire dates fixating on if you’ll say goodbye with a hug or kiss? A better way to express your interest early is light touch throughout the date. This could be playful hand touching or gently guiding them with a soft arm or side grab.

You should never make your date uncomfortable, so always play it safe and skip this step if your date expresses unease.

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#8: Reel in Your Enthusiasm, but Don’t Play Games

Even if you’re head over heels for someone, try your best to keep it cool — at least for the first couple of dates. Putting someone on a pedestal can subconsciously make you feel inferior, so this attachment style can put your confidence at risk.

However, don’t overcompensate by acting completely uninterested. Never hurt someone’s feelings to make yourself feel better!

#9: Let People Reveal Themselves

If you struggle to enjoy the moment on your dates, you may be too fixated on whether you’re compatible. Trust in your date to reveal themselves over time, and trust in your ability to attract the right person.

#10: Can’t Get a Second Date? Dig Deep

Self-awareness is always easier said than done, but if you can’t seem to maintain momentum with anyone, it may be time to reflect. Are you failing to open up enough? Are you pitching yourself the wrong way? Are you going after the wrong people?

Even if you don’t like the answers, having that inward conversation is an important first step to a better dating life.

Verge is the video dating app helping couples find their most compatible match! We’re always sharing dating trends, tips, and advice over on our Instagram, so be sure to follow along for the latest insight.

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